Shoveling Through the Adverse Crap in Our Relationships

It’s 4am. It’s been a very rough few weeks for me.

Between the redesigning of this site, to the giveaway, to the stress of making sure every last bit of my program is absolutely perfect, I’m thoroughly exhausted.

But I come back. I always do.

I come back to all the techie webmaster BS I’m terrible at, and I return to “social networking” with all the phony people swarming the blogosphere and Twitter.

And I come back to the sea of unanswered questions as to whether or not this blog journey I’m on will continue to add value in people’s lives.

I come back and face the music, despite all the turds being flung in my direction.

Which, coincidentally, sounds a lot like being in a relationship. We come back and face the music and we’re intent to stare down the adversity coming at us all at once from every direction.

“We’re just not getting along. We’re fighting a lot more than we’re not.”

“I feel like we’re not on the same page. She has her life, I have mine.”

“I’m not happy and it’s hard for me to keep pretending that I am. I just want this damned relationship to work.”

This is normal, even in a healthy relationship. The planets are not aligned. We miss the boat. And then we climb right back on it and keep on pushing.

The only thing that matters is that we know the relationship is what we truly want. Then we can easily distinguish where we will focus our efforts so that we can forgive the minor and overlook the insignificant.

If the bigger picture remains the holy grail, the smaller stuff is manageable. And the cool thing is if we’re really lucky, the minor stuff can actually make for one hell of a storyline after all is said and done.

So why do I keep coming back? Because my readers love me. I mean, really love me. My true blue readers, who have stuck by me since I erected this flagship I call FeistyWoman.

And it makes all the phony Twitter and blogosphere people, the pain in the ass webmaster IT crap and every other adversity that comes with the job that much more bearable.

Can you say the same about your relationship? Do you keep coming back because the love you give and receive is a lot more important than all the imperfect moments and episodes of crap that come right along with it?

If not, you better start searching for some other kind of relationship. And I better start searching for something else to write about.

To make the adversity something we’re willing to work through, we need to see the rewards. I mean really see them. Otherwise we’ll just quit and we won’t look back.

The journey has to match up with the reward otherwise, we know deep down it just isn’t worth it. Only then does adversity become a reason to give up.

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