A lot of guys are wet behind the ears when it comes to laying down their game with a real woman, and real women know precisely every angle they’re coming from. They’re entirely unaware of just how bad they look and they have no idea what’s on a woman’s mind when she stares at them with that blank non-expressive gaze and proceeds to get up and walk away.
I don’t think I have to reiterate why men find real women very alluring, but to nail down all the corners here, they really do desire someone they can respect and look at as an equal. Real women have that appeal, and a lot of really great men are seeking to find a part of themselves that will shine through in a real woman.
Until you step up your game, you’re just going to keep spinning your wheels along the road to nowhere.
I’ll be honest guys- you’re not doing anything right, unless you’re taking the time to really get to know us as a person, instead of trying to find that one way ticket to get inside our knickers. A real woman isn’t going to give it up to you until you make her feel like her world and all that’s in it are secure and in your absolute best interest and intentions.
She knows there’s far too much at stake to waste herself on just anybody.
Let’s look at the real reasons why you’re failing miserably:
- You bring on the sexual innuendos.
We see you coming a mile away and we’re going to do our best to run you off the pike. We aren’t even considering you as a friend yet, much less someone to bed. Yeah, we’re talking to you obviously because we find you attractive and appealing, but as soon as you try to run from first base to home, we’re going to blast your balls right out the park.
We know your angle and we’ve seen it all before. And since you’ve already brought it up, we’re going to assume that’s all you want. Then we’re going to cut you off quicker than the saliva starts to dribble down your chin as you watch our behinds going the other way. Do yourself a favor and don’t even bother. We already know men have a one-track mind. You’re not showing us anything new.
- You’re lazy and not putting in the effort.
You don’t bother to call, make future dates, and you rely on vague text messages and Facebook pokes to convey your “interest”. I’m sure you’re used to hags running you ragged around town with incessant phone calls, emails and texts. They do all the work for you and you’ve become very comfortable and accustomed to laying on your behind.
For the real woman, that “strategy” isn’t going to work. When you slight us and make at most, a minimal effort, you’re simply telling us we aren’t worth your time. If that’s the case, cut your losses and let us move on. We have better things to think about and better men to consider who are more cut out for the job.
- You’re not engaging with her in a meaningful way.
You’re out on a second date, which obviously means you wanted to see her again. But then you start talking about how much you love yourself and your thousands of friends and your spectacular life. The scene is now forecasting you, and not us, and we think you’re a conceited douche.
Relationships AND conversations are a two-way street and we don’t want to have to remind you that we’re actually sitting there right next to you. We want you to notice and pay attention.
So ditch the “me, me, me” crap, if you think you can handle it. Otherwise we’re going to leave you sitting there alone. Not real good for your ego at all.
- You’re coming on way too strong.
You’re blowing hotter than a coal mine on fire and you’re calling too much, rushing things and being impatient. You’re pressuring us to make a snap decision about you and “our future” when barely a week has gone by that we’ve even gotten to know anything about you. You could be an ax-murderer or have $250,000 in back taxes and you blindly insist on forging straight ahead, demanding commitment, and the world.
We need to know you first. And we aren’t buying what you’re selling because we’ve seen it all before. You come blazing our way, become fickle and fizzle out shortly thereafter. And in the midst of the aftermath, we hardly know what hit us when we’re left holding the bag.
Try a moderate pace and stick to it. There’s always time if you make it.
- You’re not over your ex. And it shows.
We see that you have issues stemming from your past relationship when you still talk about the trip you took with her to Cancun last year, how great a horse-trainer she was and how you regret how bad you effed things up. There’s no subliminal signal to uncover here and the writing is on the wall.
We know you’re not over her because you said so yourself.
If you’re still die-hard fanatical about an ex, you shouldn’t be dating anybody. And when you’re out with us and you’re talking about her, we think you’re desperate, clingy and too scared to be alone. Plus, it’s rather obvious you’re not into us. Not a good view from where we’re standing.
Resolve your issues first and then decide to reemerge as a changed man. Then we’ll gladly take you up on your offer. Nobody wants the baggage equivalent of a strung out dude with ex issues.
Many men are as bad as women when it comes to how they attempt to swoon each other. It’s like a dance of sorts, where one takes the lead and the other follows, but it’s being able to compel the other person to stay along your path is when it really counts. And the facades and illusions we create for others to see are often easily transparent.
If you’re trying too hard or barely trying at all, you’re in for getting shot down left and right. Take it slow, be honest with us and most of all be honest with yourself.